Leading Edge – Volume 79 – CEO Mindset: Communication Approach

7 Deadly Signs of a Rotten Boss

“Good leadership isn’t about advancing yourself.  Its about advancing your team.”

― John Maxwell

By Polly Walker

At some point in your career you (or someone close to you) has probably worked for someone that was a rotten boss. According to an April 2015 Gallup study, 50% of workers in the United States have quit their job to get out of this very same scenario. This situation is very common because hiring and promotion decisions are usually based on a team member’s past experience and/or technical expertise, and not how good of a leader they are or what management skills they possess. These folks get rewarded for their technical expertise by being put in an entirely different role supervising or managing team members…often with disastrous results.

What is a rotten boss? Here are seven of the most common behaviors of someone who probably shouldn’t be in a leadership position:

1. Nitpicking and micromanagement: Nobody can do it as good as they can. They are down in the weeds and in your business.

2. Public criticism/bullying: They enjoy correcting people or calling team members out by name in meetings and public forums.

3. Lack of positive feedback: Their only interactions are to tell team members what they are doing “wrong”, and there is never a pat on the back for what they are doing “right”.

4. Doesn’t encourage career growth: No discussions are held to find out how the team member wants to develop and how the business and the leader can support them.

5. Bad listener: They don’t solicit input and/or they can’t or won’t listen.

6. Plays favorites: They expect less and relax rules for certain team members.

7. Never wrong/don’t apologize: Everyone makes mistakes. But when they do they sweep it under the rug or don’t apologize for it.

Did reading these seven signs bring back memories? What kind of impact did that rotten boss have on you, your team members and your organization? Team members are an organization’s greatest asset. Companies need to ensure that when hiring decisions are made that the person has either demonstrated good management skills, or that they are given the leadership training they need to be a good supervisor or manager prior to or as soon as possible after promotion. Rotten bosses result in team members who either leave the organization or stay and are miserable, so it is very important companies hire and promote the right people and provide timely and impactful leadership training.

Polly Walker’s areas of focus include leadership development, quality management, customer service, team member engagement and process improvement. She is an engaging and experienced facilitator, team builder, trainer, and change manager. 

Leading Edge – Volume 78 – CEO Mindset: Subtle Direction

Recommended Reading-Why the Mighty Fall

Kelley Reynolds from Aegis Learning

“Success is falling down and getting up one more time, without end.”

Jim Collins

Leading Edge from Aegis Learning

By Kelley Reynolds

Jim Collins is one of the authors who brought us Built to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies and From Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don’t. A few years ago, Collins was facilitating a session for military generals, CEOs and other leaders. During one of the breaks, one of the participants asked Collins, “When you are on the top of the world, the most successful company in your industry, your power and success might coverup the fact that you are already on the path to decline. How would you know?” This conversation inspired Collins to conduct research which lead to this book.

Collins previous books were focused on companies building on greatness. Collins was now curious to understand the decline of once great companies. This book is the embodiment of the philosophy of “We learn more from our failures than we do by our successes.”

Each chapter is easy to read. There are interesting examples provided to illustrate the findings of his research. Most every company used as an example was well known, for example A&P, Rubbermaid and Scott Paper. Collins also shared experiences and lessons learned from his life. Although the research started with one question, the answer lead to more questions. The chapters flow logically from each new question. For those who are interested in greater details, there are several appendices which provide additional information for the companies referenced in the book.

From Collins previous works, Good to Great and Built to Last, he and his research team had already amassed records which reflected a combined 6000 years of corporate history. They selected 60 major companies. Within the 60, they identified 11 companies that met their rigorous criteria which included a rise and fall.

Armed with the new information, the team updated their previous research. The questions they sought answers to were: What happened leading up to the point at which decline became visible and what did the company do once it began to fall? They utilized historical materials. Materials that were produced from the time of the companies’ founding to its decline, focusing on specific eras. These materials included such items as annual reports, major articles published about the company and industry reference materials. Collins did not want to rely upon retrospective interviews as those could be clouded or biased. The documents used were published and written at the those points in time without the knowledge of what would occur to the businesses.

As they researched, the team selected as a control set, a successful company that was a contemporary of the business that had fallen. The companies selected had risen at the same time and were in the same industry, such as Circuit City and Best Buy; Ames and Wal-Mart.
Collins considered the following questions: Are there clearly distinguishable stages of decline? If so, can you spot decline early? Are there telltale markers? Can you reverse decline? If so, how? Is there a point of no return?

Based upon the research, Collins and his team identified five stages of decline:

Stage 1: Hubris Born of Success

Collins cited many examples of hubris including undisciplined endeavors into areas where a company cannot excel; ignoring evidence to make risky decisions and outright denial that their company is at risk. One form of hubris Collins referred to was Arrogant Neglect. He provided the example of Circuit City that diverted its attention from their primary “flywheel,” what made the company successful, to chase the next big thing, on the assumption that their original success will take care of itself. As in relationships, if you divert your attention or ignore someone long enough, the relationship will decline.

Stage 2: Undisciplined Pursuit of More

During the research portion, Collins expected to find that companies had rested upon their laurels and had become complacent. However, in most of the companies reviewed, this was not the case. The opposite was found; the companies were found to have overreached. The companies were obsessed with growth. They strayed from their core purposes and values. When attempting to grow quickly, the companies were unable to fill vacant seats with the right people. The #1 ingredient for a culture of discipline is having the right people. The people who are self- managed and exemplify self-motivation do not require lots of rules and bureaucracy. When a company instituted many needless rules and bureaucracy, the company drove away the right people. The businesses suffered from vacancies born of rapid growth and loss of their key people.

Stage 3: Denial of Risk

This stage was marked with discounting negative or unpleasant information rather than addressing what was wrong with the company. The leaders made decisions that were not based upon the facts of the situation. The leaders shifted to dictatorial management, or, the members stopped telling the leaders what the leaders were unwilling to hear.

Stage 4: Grasping for Salvation

Panic is not pretty. The companies changed leaders. They moved headquarters. They searched for silver bullets. They restructured, again and again. This lead to confusion and disappointment. Collins described this reactive behavior as counter intuitive. It was contrary to survival. When the companies behaved in a frantic manner it accelerated their demise. Collins shared lessons learned from a combat veteran. Remain calm. Focus and take one shot at a time.

Stage 5: Capitulation to Irrelevance or Death

Collins research revealed two versions of stage 5. CEOs either decided to stop fighting for the company; or they continued to fight until there were out of options. Once those in power gave up hope, there was nothing left for them to give.

Well Founded Hope

The final chapter of the book Collins sought to prepare and empower leaders. He wanted to give hope.

Collins believed that decline was largely self-inflicted and recovery was often within the leader’s control. Companies experienced peaks and valleys. Just because a company experienced a decline did not mean it would fail. Being great did not preclude a company from falling. At the same time, just because a company fell, did not preclude it from raising again.

With empowerment, you have choices in how to respond to your situations. With adversity comes opportunity for growth and greatness. Collins wrote: “The signature of the truly great versus the merely successful is not the absence of difficulty, but the ability to come back from setbacks, even cataclysmic catastrophes, stronger than before.”

He ended the book with this: “Success is falling down and getting up one more time, without end.”

Kelley Reynolds from Aegis Learning

Kelley’s optimistic outlook on life guides her belief that change is possible!

Her easy going instruction style mixed with a dry wit make her an entertaining educator. She has instructed professionals throughout the nation as well as internationally. Kelley has earned a Master of Business Administration and possesses a bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice, both from University of Nevada, Las Vegas.

Leading Edge – Volume 77 – CEO Mindset: Critical Eye

Aegis Cares – 2018 Update

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Furthering Our Commitment to the Community

Aegis Learning Cares

The first half of 2018 saw Aegis Cares, the community involvement arm of Aegis Learning, grow support and contributions in a number of areas.  The highlights include:

Las Vegas Rescue Mission:

  • Assisted with five dinner and lunch services
  • 105 volunteer hours donated and over 500 residents fed
  • Conducted 2 bottles water collections
  • 103 cases of water collected and distributed
  • Conducted one clothing drive: 17 large bags of clothing collected and distributed

Hope for Prisoners

  • Donated 30 hours of leadership development training to the office team
  • Donated success skills programs with those transitioning out of prison at three different campuses
  • Spoke at mentor rally about communication effectiveness

Big thanks to Polly Walker for coordinating our Aegis Cares events and campaigns.  

As we continue to live our purpose and give back as much as we can, we invite you to join us.

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To Tell the Truth

Three Ways to Uncover Your Blind Spots: DiSC Assessment, 360 Survey, Truth Teller/Peer Coach

When three people call you an ass, put on a bridle.

Spanish Proverb


By Teresa Lowry

To Tell the Truth is a game show that has run consecutively and intermittently since 1956, airing at least one new episode in seven consecutive decades. The premise is that the panelist judges must identify the real central character who is with a group of imposters. The imposters may lie when answering questions while the central character must tell the truth.

We all need truth tellers in our lives and careers. These are the people who can help us uncover our blind spots. Behavioral blind spots are those areas in your behavior and projection of skills that others see with total clarity but in which we have no awareness. This is especially true when it comes to the impact of those behaviors and actions. The behavior itself may not be inherently negative but the impact on other people and team members may be negative or have adverse impacts.

Common leadership blind spots include verbal tone, facial expressions, volume of positive feedback and appreciation, approachability, and empathy. The impact of blind spots on leadership is large. Each unresolved or unmanaged blind spot has the potential to create relationship strains, conflict, distrust and lack of engagement.

There are three ways to uncover our blind spots. The DiSC assessment, 360 feedback surveys and truth tellers/peer coaches. DiSC is a behavior assessment tool that asks a series of questions that produce a detailed report about your personality and behavior. A 360 survey gathers feedback from your colleagues in the workplace. The participants may respond anonymously about your strengths and weaknesses. Truth tellers/peer coaching involves a trust-based relationship in the workplace where feedback can be exchanged with each other.

Our focus here is the care and feeding of your truth tellers. First, make a conscious decision to surround yourself with people who will tell you what you may not want to hear. Ask yourself: Do I provide a safe place for my truth tellers to give me feedback? Do I solicit and welcome feedback? When feedback is given do I argue against it, become defensive or ignore it? Our goal and the best way to accept feedback is to listen and express thanks.

I am fortunate to have many trusted truth tellers in my life. In my experience they appear in three distinct forms. They are the Comedian, the Drill Sergeant and the Angel. Each has given me valuable feedback about how I am perceived by others.

The Comedian uses humor to point out my behavioral blind spots. They may mimic or exaggerate my direct sharp tone or my lack of empathy. They pantomime my out of control ego. This is always done in a way that I know they have my best interest at heart and I can’t help but double over laughing at them and myself.

The Drill Sergeant is direct, to the point and unemotional. They are often the toughest to listen to because they are so blunt, but they have the courage to tell you what no one else will. They will tell me when my breath is bad, I smell, I’ve gained 20 pounds and when my pontificating sucks all the air out of a room. They don’t sandwich their comments with compliments or disclaimers. Despite the delivery I know they want me to be successful.

The Angel tends to tell me the truth indirectly by way of story, allegory or innuendo. They often model the behavior they hope I will adopt. They set a good example. Feedback is delivered with kindness and compassion. Their observation can be the easiest to accept although it is often very subtle, so I must stay diligent and listen closely to their counsel.

Listen to and thank your Comedian, Drill Sergeant and Angel. Author and teacher Michael Beckwith reminds us in Spiritual Liberation: Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential “be grateful that life brings us all that we require to wake up…We discover within ourselves the humility to be a beginner over and over again, which keeps us teachable.” Our goal is to stay teachable and ready to listen when our Comedian, Drill Sargent and Angel show up to tell the truth. Oh, and if the Comedian, Drill Sergeant and Angel all call you an ass, put on a bridle.

Teresa Lowry is a passionate advocate for learning, growth and generating real organizational change.

Leading Edge – Volume 76 – CEO Mindset: Creating Balance

Recommended Reading-The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team

Kelley Reynolds from Aegis Learning

“The single most untapped competitive advantages is teamwork.”

Patrick Lencioni

Leading Edge from Aegis Learning

By Kelley Reynolds

Patrick Lencioni has written a leadership fable about fictional Kathryn Petersen, the new CEO of DecisionTech. He has identified five dysfunctions that cause problems within organizations. Within each section, Petersen instructs her team through a series of exercise. The appendix offers additional specific exercises to overcome each of the dysfunctions.

Reading about the dysfunctions of team and thinking of the converse, high performing teams, one thought jumps into my brain: SWAT teams. These are the law enforcement special weapons and tactic teams. There are probably military teams who operate under the same philosophies, but my familiarity is limited to law enforcement. SWAT teams are highly specialized, highly trained cohesive teams. They HAVE to function. The consequences of dysfunction within one of their teams is not merely a slow quarter nor is not a lost sale. Dysfunction within a SWAT team could result in lost lives, civilian and law enforcement.

1. Absence of trust
Lack or loss of trust is at the core of any type of broken relationship; whether we call the relationship marriage, friendship or colleague. Without trust in place, there is no level of emotional intimacy. At best the interactions are cordial, the other end of the spectrum could include open hostility or worse. To have a cohesive team, you have to be able to be honest with each other. As well, there needs to be trust within the team for one to be honest about oneself while communication with the other team members.

You might be thinking, “Wait a minute. You mentioned a SWAT team. Where do emotions and intimacy come into play?” Oh, tough SWAT officers have emotions. Have you ever seen the tears well up in their eyes when their brand new armored SWAT vehicle is delivered from the showroom?

There are such rigorous standards to qualify for the team, from the beginning, the members know the new member is of high caliber. They train together. Hard, dirty, sweaty training. They build camaraderie through shared experiences.

2. Fear of Conflict
Without trust, team members will not have open discussion of ideas. What options are there for the team, if new ideas aren’t shared? If trust was lost, how can it be rebuilt until the issue is addressed. Addressing the issue is oftentimes going to involve conflict.

Okay, do you think SWAT team members have a fear of conflict? Yeah, me neither. Do they have conflicts on the team? You bet! However, they know what is at stake if they allow the conflict to fester and that is simply not an option. They address issues. Conflicts within the team get resolved.

3. Lack of Commitment
It is much easier to gain buy-in if everyone has an opportunity speak and is willing to share their ideas. Then, the team needs to engage in healthy debate surrounding the ideas. If the members aren’t involved in healthy conflict, it may impact their commitment to the plan.
So, SWAT members engage in discussion about executing search warrants. They weigh the pros and cons of using a flash-bang or other devices. Once the plan is made, all of them understand the plan and are committed to it.

4. Avoidance of Accountability
Without commitment and little to no trust, the fourth dysfunction occurs, and it is two-fold. If someone did not buy into the plan, how much responsibility will they take for their behaviors? “It wasn’t my idea. I knew it wasn’t going to work.” You can hear them say it. If there is little trust among peers, who among the team will hold them accountable?

This is where SWAT teams excel. There is no avoiding accountability. After every event, the SWAT team debriefs. Everyone in the room is given an opportunity to speak, twice. The first time around, the team member is expected to acknowledge any action they took or failed to take. If, during the first time around, someone failed to take responsibility for their own actions, on the second go-round, it is the other team members responsibility to point out the unacknowledged errors.

5. Inattention to Results
When members of the team fail to hold each other accountable, the team loses focus of the big picture. At this point, individual members may put their needs above the team or the team may look no further than itself without consideration to the organization’s needs.
The results of the SWAT team’s work is usually on the nightly news. Criminals may be arrested. There may be law suits filed. It is virtually impossible to ignore the results of a SWAT team’s work. Furthermore, the lessons learned from the debrief are incorporated into their training. They may become policy and best practice.

Learning from their experiences and modifying their tactics to keep citizens and officers safe is the mission of the police department. Teams working toward the mission of the organization is the goal that Lencioni’s book attempts to achieve.

Kelley Reynolds

Kelley’s optimistic outlook on life guides her belief that change is possible!

Her easy going instruction style mixed with a dry wit make her an entertaining educator. She has instructed professionals throughout the nation as well as internationally. Kelley has earned a Master of Business Administration and possesses a bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice, both from University of Nevada, Las Vegas.

Curiosity Elevates the Cat

“Curiosity is the most powerful thing you own.”

― James Francis Cameron

By Polly Walker

What is one of the most powerful things you can do to be BETTER? The secret to your success lies in cultivating curiosity. Curiosity can give you a profound advantage both in business and in life.

Curiosity is something we feel when we are struck by a strange or unusual object or fact, which then results in a strong desire to know or learn something. Many people believe that curiosity is a trait (i.e. it can’t be taught, it is a natural tendency), but that is not the case. Curiosity is a behavior, which is fantastic because this means you can LEARN how to do it.

Why be curious? There are many, many positive outcomes from being curious, but I have chosen just to highlight my “big three” here:

• Strengthen Relationships – Curious people are genuinely interested in others, and asking questions builds connection.
• Increase Competence: Gathering knowledge and sharing information sparks the ability to innovate, enhances credibility, and supports the achievement of outcomes.
• Fuel Positive Mindset: Growth-minded people ask questions and believe that there is always an answer to any problem or situation.

The September, 2006, Edition of Psychology Today outlined some easy ways that you can “train” yourself to be more curious.

• Reframe “boring” situations.
If you’ve got an inquiring mind, it’s possible to turn even mundane events, like waiting in line at the DMV, into something meaningful. Look for details others might miss, and seek to learn more about them. For instance, try turning to another customer in line and saying, “I noticed the Purple Heart pinned to your jacket. What war did you serve in?”

• Don’t let fear stop you from trying something new.
“If you’re curious about something, it acts as a positive counterweight to anxiety and fear,” Silvia says. Exercising your curiosity won’t wipe out doubt, but it may help you focus on the likely positive consequences of a new venture (learning to execute a perfect swan dive) rather than the negative ones (doing a belly flop and surfacing to the sound of laughter).

• Let your true passions shine.
A key component of curiosity is what Boston College psychologist Ellen Winner calls a “rage to master”—whether that involves accumulating rejection slips from The New Yorker or spending hours in the basement learning banjo fingerings. An intense focus on specific interests or goals invites the state of mental immersion called “flow,” which in turn elicits feelings of accomplishment and well-being.

James Cameron (the Director of Titanic, Terminator, Aliens, Avatar and several other movies) says “Curiosity is the most powerful thing you can own”. His curiosity as a child about exploring the world around him spurred numerous dives to the bottom of the ocean (including a dive of 45,756 feet to the bottom of the ocean to film Titanic), the creation of several undersea documentaries, the invention of several underwater apparatus, and the creation of several of biggest blockbuster movies ever. The secret to your success lies in cultivating curiosity.

Polly Walker’s areas of focus include leadership development, quality management, customer service, team member engagement and process improvement. She is an engaging and experienced facilitator, team builder, trainer, and change manager.