Leading Edge – Volume 77 – CEO Mindset: Critical Eye

Aegis Cares – 2018 Update

Aegis Learning Cares
Aegis Learning Cares
Aegis Learning Cares

Furthering Our Commitment to the Community

Aegis Learning Cares

The first half of 2018 saw Aegis Cares, the community involvement arm of Aegis Learning, grow support and contributions in a number of areas.  The highlights include:

Las Vegas Rescue Mission:

  • Assisted with five dinner and lunch services
  • 105 volunteer hours donated and over 500 residents fed
  • Conducted 2 bottles water collections
  • 103 cases of water collected and distributed
  • Conducted one clothing drive: 17 large bags of clothing collected and distributed

Hope for Prisoners

  • Donated 30 hours of leadership development training to the office team
  • Donated success skills programs with those transitioning out of prison at three different campuses
  • Spoke at mentor rally about communication effectiveness

Big thanks to Polly Walker for coordinating our Aegis Cares events and campaigns.  

As we continue to live our purpose and give back as much as we can, we invite you to join us.

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To Tell the Truth

Three Ways to Uncover Your Blind Spots: DiSC Assessment, 360 Survey, Truth Teller/Peer Coach

When three people call you an ass, put on a bridle.

Spanish Proverb


By Teresa Lowry

To Tell the Truth is a game show that has run consecutively and intermittently since 1956, airing at least one new episode in seven consecutive decades. The premise is that the panelist judges must identify the real central character who is with a group of imposters. The imposters may lie when answering questions while the central character must tell the truth.

We all need truth tellers in our lives and careers. These are the people who can help us uncover our blind spots. Behavioral blind spots are those areas in your behavior and projection of skills that others see with total clarity but in which we have no awareness. This is especially true when it comes to the impact of those behaviors and actions. The behavior itself may not be inherently negative but the impact on other people and team members may be negative or have adverse impacts.

Common leadership blind spots include verbal tone, facial expressions, volume of positive feedback and appreciation, approachability, and empathy. The impact of blind spots on leadership is large. Each unresolved or unmanaged blind spot has the potential to create relationship strains, conflict, distrust and lack of engagement.

There are three ways to uncover our blind spots. The DiSC assessment, 360 feedback surveys and truth tellers/peer coaches. DiSC is a behavior assessment tool that asks a series of questions that produce a detailed report about your personality and behavior. A 360 survey gathers feedback from your colleagues in the workplace. The participants may respond anonymously about your strengths and weaknesses. Truth tellers/peer coaching involves a trust-based relationship in the workplace where feedback can be exchanged with each other.

Our focus here is the care and feeding of your truth tellers. First, make a conscious decision to surround yourself with people who will tell you what you may not want to hear. Ask yourself: Do I provide a safe place for my truth tellers to give me feedback? Do I solicit and welcome feedback? When feedback is given do I argue against it, become defensive or ignore it? Our goal and the best way to accept feedback is to listen and express thanks.

I am fortunate to have many trusted truth tellers in my life. In my experience they appear in three distinct forms. They are the Comedian, the Drill Sergeant and the Angel. Each has given me valuable feedback about how I am perceived by others.

The Comedian uses humor to point out my behavioral blind spots. They may mimic or exaggerate my direct sharp tone or my lack of empathy. They pantomime my out of control ego. This is always done in a way that I know they have my best interest at heart and I can’t help but double over laughing at them and myself.

The Drill Sergeant is direct, to the point and unemotional. They are often the toughest to listen to because they are so blunt, but they have the courage to tell you what no one else will. They will tell me when my breath is bad, I smell, I’ve gained 20 pounds and when my pontificating sucks all the air out of a room. They don’t sandwich their comments with compliments or disclaimers. Despite the delivery I know they want me to be successful.

The Angel tends to tell me the truth indirectly by way of story, allegory or innuendo. They often model the behavior they hope I will adopt. They set a good example. Feedback is delivered with kindness and compassion. Their observation can be the easiest to accept although it is often very subtle, so I must stay diligent and listen closely to their counsel.

Listen to and thank your Comedian, Drill Sergeant and Angel. Author and teacher Michael Beckwith reminds us in Spiritual Liberation: Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential “be grateful that life brings us all that we require to wake up…We discover within ourselves the humility to be a beginner over and over again, which keeps us teachable.” Our goal is to stay teachable and ready to listen when our Comedian, Drill Sargent and Angel show up to tell the truth. Oh, and if the Comedian, Drill Sergeant and Angel all call you an ass, put on a bridle.

Teresa Lowry is a passionate advocate for learning, growth and generating real organizational change.

Leading Edge – Volume 76 – CEO Mindset: Creating Balance

Recommended Reading-The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team

Kelley Reynolds from Aegis Learning

“The single most untapped competitive advantages is teamwork.”

Patrick Lencioni

Leading Edge from Aegis Learning

By Kelley Reynolds

Patrick Lencioni has written a leadership fable about fictional Kathryn Petersen, the new CEO of DecisionTech. He has identified five dysfunctions that cause problems within organizations. Within each section, Petersen instructs her team through a series of exercise. The appendix offers additional specific exercises to overcome each of the dysfunctions.

Reading about the dysfunctions of team and thinking of the converse, high performing teams, one thought jumps into my brain: SWAT teams. These are the law enforcement special weapons and tactic teams. There are probably military teams who operate under the same philosophies, but my familiarity is limited to law enforcement. SWAT teams are highly specialized, highly trained cohesive teams. They HAVE to function. The consequences of dysfunction within one of their teams is not merely a slow quarter nor is not a lost sale. Dysfunction within a SWAT team could result in lost lives, civilian and law enforcement.

1. Absence of trust
Lack or loss of trust is at the core of any type of broken relationship; whether we call the relationship marriage, friendship or colleague. Without trust in place, there is no level of emotional intimacy. At best the interactions are cordial, the other end of the spectrum could include open hostility or worse. To have a cohesive team, you have to be able to be honest with each other. As well, there needs to be trust within the team for one to be honest about oneself while communication with the other team members.

You might be thinking, “Wait a minute. You mentioned a SWAT team. Where do emotions and intimacy come into play?” Oh, tough SWAT officers have emotions. Have you ever seen the tears well up in their eyes when their brand new armored SWAT vehicle is delivered from the showroom?

There are such rigorous standards to qualify for the team, from the beginning, the members know the new member is of high caliber. They train together. Hard, dirty, sweaty training. They build camaraderie through shared experiences.

2. Fear of Conflict
Without trust, team members will not have open discussion of ideas. What options are there for the team, if new ideas aren’t shared? If trust was lost, how can it be rebuilt until the issue is addressed. Addressing the issue is oftentimes going to involve conflict.

Okay, do you think SWAT team members have a fear of conflict? Yeah, me neither. Do they have conflicts on the team? You bet! However, they know what is at stake if they allow the conflict to fester and that is simply not an option. They address issues. Conflicts within the team get resolved.

3. Lack of Commitment
It is much easier to gain buy-in if everyone has an opportunity speak and is willing to share their ideas. Then, the team needs to engage in healthy debate surrounding the ideas. If the members aren’t involved in healthy conflict, it may impact their commitment to the plan.
So, SWAT members engage in discussion about executing search warrants. They weigh the pros and cons of using a flash-bang or other devices. Once the plan is made, all of them understand the plan and are committed to it.

4. Avoidance of Accountability
Without commitment and little to no trust, the fourth dysfunction occurs, and it is two-fold. If someone did not buy into the plan, how much responsibility will they take for their behaviors? “It wasn’t my idea. I knew it wasn’t going to work.” You can hear them say it. If there is little trust among peers, who among the team will hold them accountable?

This is where SWAT teams excel. There is no avoiding accountability. After every event, the SWAT team debriefs. Everyone in the room is given an opportunity to speak, twice. The first time around, the team member is expected to acknowledge any action they took or failed to take. If, during the first time around, someone failed to take responsibility for their own actions, on the second go-round, it is the other team members responsibility to point out the unacknowledged errors.

5. Inattention to Results
When members of the team fail to hold each other accountable, the team loses focus of the big picture. At this point, individual members may put their needs above the team or the team may look no further than itself without consideration to the organization’s needs.
The results of the SWAT team’s work is usually on the nightly news. Criminals may be arrested. There may be law suits filed. It is virtually impossible to ignore the results of a SWAT team’s work. Furthermore, the lessons learned from the debrief are incorporated into their training. They may become policy and best practice.

Learning from their experiences and modifying their tactics to keep citizens and officers safe is the mission of the police department. Teams working toward the mission of the organization is the goal that Lencioni’s book attempts to achieve.

Kelley Reynolds

Kelley’s optimistic outlook on life guides her belief that change is possible!

Her easy going instruction style mixed with a dry wit make her an entertaining educator. She has instructed professionals throughout the nation as well as internationally. Kelley has earned a Master of Business Administration and possesses a bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice, both from University of Nevada, Las Vegas.

Curiosity Elevates the Cat

“Curiosity is the most powerful thing you own.”

― James Francis Cameron

By Polly Walker

What is one of the most powerful things you can do to be BETTER? The secret to your success lies in cultivating curiosity. Curiosity can give you a profound advantage both in business and in life.

Curiosity is something we feel when we are struck by a strange or unusual object or fact, which then results in a strong desire to know or learn something. Many people believe that curiosity is a trait (i.e. it can’t be taught, it is a natural tendency), but that is not the case. Curiosity is a behavior, which is fantastic because this means you can LEARN how to do it.

Why be curious? There are many, many positive outcomes from being curious, but I have chosen just to highlight my “big three” here:

• Strengthen Relationships – Curious people are genuinely interested in others, and asking questions builds connection.
• Increase Competence: Gathering knowledge and sharing information sparks the ability to innovate, enhances credibility, and supports the achievement of outcomes.
• Fuel Positive Mindset: Growth-minded people ask questions and believe that there is always an answer to any problem or situation.

The September, 2006, Edition of Psychology Today outlined some easy ways that you can “train” yourself to be more curious.

• Reframe “boring” situations.
If you’ve got an inquiring mind, it’s possible to turn even mundane events, like waiting in line at the DMV, into something meaningful. Look for details others might miss, and seek to learn more about them. For instance, try turning to another customer in line and saying, “I noticed the Purple Heart pinned to your jacket. What war did you serve in?”

• Don’t let fear stop you from trying something new.
“If you’re curious about something, it acts as a positive counterweight to anxiety and fear,” Silvia says. Exercising your curiosity won’t wipe out doubt, but it may help you focus on the likely positive consequences of a new venture (learning to execute a perfect swan dive) rather than the negative ones (doing a belly flop and surfacing to the sound of laughter).

• Let your true passions shine.
A key component of curiosity is what Boston College psychologist Ellen Winner calls a “rage to master”—whether that involves accumulating rejection slips from The New Yorker or spending hours in the basement learning banjo fingerings. An intense focus on specific interests or goals invites the state of mental immersion called “flow,” which in turn elicits feelings of accomplishment and well-being.

James Cameron (the Director of Titanic, Terminator, Aliens, Avatar and several other movies) says “Curiosity is the most powerful thing you can own”. His curiosity as a child about exploring the world around him spurred numerous dives to the bottom of the ocean (including a dive of 45,756 feet to the bottom of the ocean to film Titanic), the creation of several undersea documentaries, the invention of several underwater apparatus, and the creation of several of biggest blockbuster movies ever. The secret to your success lies in cultivating curiosity.

Polly Walker’s areas of focus include leadership development, quality management, customer service, team member engagement and process improvement. She is an engaging and experienced facilitator, team builder, trainer, and change manager. 

Leading Edge – Volume 75 – CEO Mindset: Continuous Learning

Take Your Leadership on Vacation

By Kelley Reynolds

The impetus for this article was having recently returned home from an extended family vacation in Europe (yes, extended described both the family and the vacation).

While on the plane home, I reflected on the trip, experiences and adventures. We had some wonderful adventures exploring Spain and France. Tasting tapas; climbing castles; chewing croissants; boarding bullet trains (I couldn’t think of any appropriate ‘w’ verb to describe wine activity, probably just as well).

Looks fantastic, doesn’t it? Lest, you think my family is comprised of the characters from the Stepford Wives, where we all sit under rainbows and hug, we experienced some, um, unpleasant adventures, too.

In an effort to identify opportunities to improve future vacations, I reflected on some of the challenges we faced. After some thought, there was a consistent issue: communication. Sure, there are those communication challenges that will naturally occur with jet lag and a nine-hour time difference; not to mention the two different languages none of us spoke. Language was really an issue when we had to learn how to say: “Endodontist, I need an emergency root canal” in Spanish. However, we also experienced other communication challenges as described in Tim Schneider’s book, Lead Well: The 10 Competencies of Outstanding Leadership.

I can share with you the importance of good communication (or would have been).

Richness of communication can be described degree of emotional connectivity to the message. The greatest richness is achieved by in-person communication, followed by telephone, written and finally text. Oh, Richness, how I missed you. Lobert (the names have been changed to protect the innocent, and mostly because I have to see them during the holidays) did not coordinate when he booked his family’s accommodations. Lobert and his family ended up staying in another village, 30 minutes away from the rest of us! This impacted our ability to communicate face to face.

Prior to leaving the states, Lobert decided he did not want to pay extra to use his cellphone while in Europe. His plan was to communicate with us via the internet utilizing a messaging app. Unfortunately, in order to do this, the app required access to the internet which was not always available to Lobert. His plan was to locate cafes and bistros that offered free WiFi. This may have worked had Lobert remembered to bring his cellphone when he left his hotel. Maybe he was relying on his telepathic abilities? Hopefully, Lobert was not able to read the minds of the rest of the family who waited and searched for him.

To recap, we lost richness without in-person communication. Richness eroded further when we were unable to call each other. Written word was dependent upon the elusive free WiFi.

Clarity of communication is another challenge. ‘Too many words’ creates not enough understanding. Active Listening can go hand in hand with clarity. If someone is using a lot of words, we tend to stop listening and jump to what we think they are saying. So, we finally meet up with Lobert at one of the amazing 14th century castles/obvious landmarks of this particular city. Lobert begins to chat about the castle.

And talks and talks and talks. We nod and say “Uh huh”. Naturally, now the group of 15 of us are in line, with Euros in hand, to purchase the castle tour and audio guides. About 3/4ths the way through this castle, the 7th castle we visited on our extended vacation, a member of the family, who has honed her leadership skills, to quite possibly the Greatest Of All Time, who we will refer to as GOAT for short, finally asked a few of the other family members if they had wanted to tour the castle. None of them had been even the slightest bit interested. Not even Lobert, whom we had assumed wanted to explore the castle, had any interest in touring the castle. Ugh.

If we had clarity, the message might not have gotten lost in the words. Or, if we had practiced active listening skills instead of “Uh huh” we might have gone canoeing instead of wandering around another dank old castle.

After leaving the castle, GOAT noticed everyone was a little cranky and irritable. Well, they were all annoying her, so they must have been cranky. In a master stroke of leadership, she gathered everyone in a circle and made the suggestion to find a place to eat. To gain buy-in, everyone was given an opportunity to say where they wanted to eat. She used her active listening skills, asked appropriate questions and paid attention.

Dinner was a delicious triple scoop cone of pistachio gelato!

Oh, and the emergency root canal. You guessed it. Lobert’s!

Kelley Reynolds

Kelley’s optimistic outlook on life guides her belief that change is possible!

Her easy going instruction style mixed with a dry wit make her an entertaining educator. She has instructed professionals throughout the nation as well as internationally. Kelley has earned a Master of Business Administration and possesses a bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice, both from University of Nevada, Las Vegas.

Leading Edge – Volume 74 – CEO Mindset: Ego on a Dial

Great Leaders are Good Storytellers

By Polly Walker

Storytelling is one of the most powerful ways that we can connect with another person. When done effectively it can evoke positive memories in the listener, and well as endearing the storyteller to the listener by revealing strengths and vulnerabilities. Most people are comfortable at telling stories in a personal setting, but don’t understand how to deploy this technique in a professional setting. This article is designed to enhance your leadership effectiveness by providing three great ways to utilize storytelling in the workplace.

Mentoring

Leaders often serve as mentors, advising someone in developing specific skills and knowledge that will support the person’s career growth. By sharing stories about the mentor’s experience and career, the leader/mentor will be more effectively able to impact the mentee by relating actual experiences and outcomes.

Public Speaking

A good story instantly evokes the emotions of the listener. In public speaking, one of the best ways to get your point across and get the attention of the listener is to illustrate how the topic matters to you by weaving in a personal story. Share your vulnerabilities and utilize humor to make your story memorable. A powerful, personal story that is important to you and related to the topic at hand is key to every great presentation.

Relationship Building

To your team members, you are the face of your company. If you want to build an engaged workplace, it is your role as a leader to build relationships. Sharing stories is a very powerful way to do this. Families, hobbies and pets are great topics for your storytelling, with the objective of building commonality and trust. Keep it light and not too personal… and don’t forget to solicit that same information back from your team members.

Want to be a better, more effective leader? Storytelling will help you connect on a new and very powerful level with your team members.

Polly Walker’s areas of focus include leadership development, quality management, customer service, team member engagement and process improvement. She is an engaging and experienced facilitator, team builder, trainer, and change manager.